What Couples in Crisis Secretly Long For — And How to Begin Rebuilding It

If your relationship feels like a battleground instead of a partnership, you’re not alone. Most
couples hit a point where they look at each other and think: “How did we get here?” And more
importantly: “Can we come back from this?”

From my own life with Marcelo and nearly 30 years of working with couples, I’ve learned that
what we really want isn’t to win an argument — it’s to feel safe, heard, and close again.

Here are a few things you might be longing for — and how to begin moving toward them today:

1. “I just want us to be a team again.”

Try saying: “I miss us.” No demands. No blame. Just that. This softens defenses and reminds
your partner of what you once shared.

2. “I want peace at home.”

Choose one moment each day to bring calm into the room — even if it’s just being silent instead
of reacting. That shift in energy can start to reset your home’s emotional tone.

3. “I want to talk without it turning into a fight.”

Use this sentence to open a hard conversation: “I want to talk about this, but I don’t want us to
argue. Can we both try to stay calm?” Setting the tone matters.

4. “I want to feel loved again.”
Instead of waiting to receive, try giving — affection, kind words, or simple presence. Love often
returns through giving, not waiting.

These are small steps, but they’re not small in impact.

Imagine that… if both of you started doing just one of these things a day — how
different would your evenings feel?

You don’t need a miracle. You need direction, courage, and consistency.

“If this resonated, and you’re tired of doing it alone, I’d love to walk with you. Let’s talk. Schedule
your private clarity call today.”

With love and belief in your marriage,
Dr. G
With God, all things are possible.